Only a third of adults share health issues with new partners in first month of dating

Only a third of adults would disclose a health issue to a new partner within the first month of dating, according to research. A poll of 2,000 Brits found one in 20 would only discuss a health issue early in a relationship if it became ‘necessary’.

It emerged many would be more likely to share any health concerns with a friend first (78%), ahead of a family member (62%). Incontinence was the top issue people were most likely to keep from others, be it friends, family or colleagues (22%), along with depression (19%) and IBS (18%).

The research, commissioned by AXA Health as part of its Cover That Cares campaign, also found a quarter would feel uneasy telling a new partner if they were suffering from cancer.

The research found that for 88% of all adults polled think being honest about health issues with loved ones is important, suggesting it’s important relatives know so they can offer support, and it’s easier to make a plan. It also suggested that relatives deserve to know.

For some, mental health remains a difficult topic to talk about, as many don’t feel comfortable discussing depression (39%) and anxiety (35%) with their loved ones. Those facing fertility challenges also struggle to open up (30%).

Heather Smith, CEO of AXA Health, said: “Being able to talk about health conditions – whether it is to your family, your partner or your colleagues – is so important. Sharing worries and having someone listen to your concerns can help feel like a weight has been lifted and can make you feel less alone.”

A fear of being judged (51%) was the most common reason respondents said they wouldn’t want to disclose any health issues, followed by embarrassment (35%) and feeling rejected (29%). However, 15% who avoided telling their partner went on to regret not being honest.

Worryingly, 14% of those with health issues have even avoided pursuing a relationship as a result of their condition.

For those who did open up to a partner, 39% were relieved. Similarly, the OnePoll study found their other half was happy they had been honest (29%) and 27% reacted in a calm manner.

The research discovered that 43% of people felt supported and 35% reassured after sharing their health issues with a loved one. A quarter of partners even began researching the condition to understand it better and to help offer the right support and be empathetic.

Heather Smith added: “For some people it can be difficult to open up. People don’t want to be seen as a burden but by keeping quiet about their symptoms or conditions they can’t benefit from a listening ear and the comfort of being able to speak openly without judgement.

“At AXA Health, we are here to listen, support and care for our members at every stage of their healthcare journey.”